#270 Interpersonal Conflicts - Inevitable Learning Opportunities

     "outbreak of interpersonal conflicts may originate from personal factors like cognition, perception, emotion, non-conscious needs, and communicative skills, or cultural factors, real differences, social and physical environments or the quality of the message given in the communication process. Conflicts among individuals are naturally inevitable, as they differ from each other, in every aspect of these factors. 

     Conflicts are a normal segment of daily life. Yet, to many, conflict is considered to be negative, as it causes disagreements, stress, social chaos and violence, and moreover, the most significant indication of a good relationship is accepted to be the absence of conflicts. ... positive aspects of conflicts are; it helps the individual in knowing themselves, enhancing their awareness about others’ characteristics, noticing the relationship problems that they need to solve, and encouraging change, increases energy and motivation for problem solving, making life more interesting, and help find small problems that are perceived as big issues. After all, it is obvious that conflict, can induce constructive results both for the conflicting person, and the person or the group that conflict is about. 

       Dincyurek S, Civelek AH. The determination of the conflict resolution strategies of university students that they use when they have conflicts with people. The Behavior Analyst Today 2008; 9(3-4): 215-233.

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