Though this is a blog, readers' comments have been rare, likely due in part to the fact that the Comment section is NOT easy to see / access. So, I'd like to share a recent comment re post #143 "Wound of the heart - part 1":
Comment:
"I can relate to this guardedness particularly when under stress
and it is related to my experiences in my family of origin. I would like
to know how to transform that guardedness to openness?"
My Response:
"As you imply, this guardedness is
entirely healthy & appropriate, based on all your previous
experiences. As an adult, you start to see that responding to life with
an open heart is a more appropriate, healthier way to live.
Nevertheless, the guardedness comes up automatically. Awareness of how
you respond, of how you & others feel as a result, and compassionate
understanding for yourself & others, very gradually but surely
diminishes your reactivity / guardedness. In the process, you develop
deep insight into others' behavior - since they too all had imperfect
parents / childhoods and so are also guarded & reactive. "Awareness
itself heals" is a potent motto to remember, realizing that awareness
involves the mind-heart ie includes compassion for self & others."
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